SPICE UP YOUR LIFE WITH SOLITUDE

SOLITUDE CAN SPICE UP YOUR LIFE!

Greta Garbo, an actress from the oldies had a great saying:  “I want to be alone.”  Solitary time is central to your well-being.  My spending time on yourself, you reduce stress, become more creative and less resentful of all the demands others place on you.

We are always running but do we add on our calendars time for reading or watching Tv?  Time is our  ultimate luxury today.  Many of us have two jobs to make ends meet.  Can we take a few moments to just sit back and relax?

We use to emphasize togetherness.  But that is today impossible. If you can’t meet your own needs, it's hard to do a good job or relate to others. What can enhance your marriage while your spouse is on the Internet?

When you meet your needs, you can easier meet your spouse's need. Getting away by yourself, relaxing without interruptions is private time that enhances marriages.  Perhaps our divorce rate would drop.

Being a parent and working outside of the home, you have little time to devote to yourself.  Some of us need to be completely alone to feel good, while others find a need to be at a public place like a museum, ball game, or a pub.  Spending a half-hour on your favorite activity pays off.  What is important is really getting away from all the stress at work so you can do a good job the next day.

Perhaps visiting a coffee house or reading a spicy novel for half  an hour after or before work is the answer.  Just don’t concentrate on anything intellectually challenging. You may get a lot of satisfaction from your high-pressure job, but often feel guilty when you want time to shop or just do your thing.

When the kids come, your duets become solo performances.  Do something you enjoy and you will be less critical and irritable. Both of  you might be more willing to listen to each other and compromise because you don’t feel overwhelmed or used. 

Women are programmed by society to take care of other people. It is more difficult to do things for little old you.  Men, on the contrary, don’t need permission to get always, because it is more acceptable for them to watch Tv, go on the Internet, or pursue a hobby.  When a women tries to be alone, she is labeled a poor mother or neglectful spouse.  Coping with stress,  use your alone time by doing things for yourself rather than catching up on endless chores.

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